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This is a sacred day to me. The most important thing I’ve ever written–my new book UNTAMED–is available for the first time TODAY.
I’m often asked why I don’t publish books more often. My answer is this: I never write a new book until I’ve become a new woman. Over the past few years, I became a new woman. UNTAMED tells that story.
At an event for LOVE WARRIOR, a woman walked into the room and the moment I saw her, three words filled my entire being: There She Is. I knew, from my roots, that she was my person. To honor that knowing–to honor myself–I dismantled and rebuilt my entire life. Loving Abby and creating a life with her was the first decision I ever made not as a good girl, but as a free woman.
UNTAMED is my deeply personal story of discovering, fighting for, and claiming the great love of my life. But this book is not about finding your Abby. It is about finding yourself.
UNTAMED is about how we got caged by the world’s expectations of us, and how we break free. It is about how to reclaim yourself, love yourself, trust yourself and abandon others’ expectations so you can stop abandoning yourself.
It’s the story of how I learned, through my relationship with Tish, that a responsible mother is not one who slowly dies for her children, but one who shows her children how to bravely live. It’s about how I stopped being a martyr and started being a model.
It’s the story of how I learned–through my divorce and blending my family–that a “broken family” is one in which any member has to break herself to fit in. And a whole family is one in which each member has the freedom to bring her entire self to the family table: to remain whole and still belong.
It’s the story of how I learned to set boundaries, make peace with my body, channel my anxiety, and honor my anger. It’s about how I finally discovered the big deal about sex.
It’s about how–when we stop pleasing and start living–we become women who can finally look at ourselves dead in the eyes and say: There She Is.
Today I am asking you to pre-order UNTAMED. Even if you usually wait until a book hits the library, or buy it the week it’s out, please consider ordering today.
It matters to me and to other authors that you vote for our art by buying it as soon as you can. It signals that there are people who believe in our work, which allows us to keep making it. The UNTAMED team is a handful of fierce, dedicated women. We have been working for two years in preparation for today. Your pre-order today means more than I can tell you.
Here’s another reason to order today. We are doing a special signed print run of UNTAMED that includes a beautiful page with the cover art and the vital question: What Would You Do If You Trusted Yourself?
I am going to sign every copy of this limited printing. Think of your people who are going through the thick – in other words, all of your people – and consider gifting them, and yourself, a special signed copy of UNTAMED. Once this first printing is gone, there won’t be any more. We don’t know if the quantity will last two hours or two weeks, so please order for yourself and your people today. Signed copies are available through independent bookstores, Barnes & Noble and Books-A-Million HERE.
In the coming weeks, as I sign each book in the limited print run, I will be sending my love and a personal blessing to each of you. I don’t know if that woo-woo stuff works but it makes me so happy and thankful that each of these books will go from my couch to yours, my hands to yours, my heart to yours.
When I finished writing, I sent UNTAMED to Liz Gilbert. She read it and wrote to me: “This book will liberate women—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I believe you were born to write this book.” It’s true. I finally freed myself enough to be able to say what I’ve been desperate to say for my entire life.
My dream is that–since freedom, joy, and peace are contagious–they will leap off each page of UNTAMED and into your hearts until each of us is free to live as the people we were born to be before the world told us who to be.
I LOVE YOU. I LOVE US.
G
I’m often asked why I don’t publish books more often. My answer is this: I never write a new book until I’ve become a new woman. Over the past few years, I became a new woman. UNTAMED tells that story.
At an event for LOVE WARRIOR, a woman walked into the room and the moment I saw her, three words filled my entire being: There She Is. I knew, from my roots, that she was my person. To honor that knowing–to honor myself–I dismantled and rebuilt my entire life. Loving Abby and creating a life with her was the first decision I ever made not as a good girl, but as a free woman.
UNTAMED is my deeply personal story of discovering, fighting for, and claiming the great love of my life. But this book is not about finding your Abby. It is about finding yourself.
UNTAMED is about how we got caged by the world’s expectations of us, and how we break free. It is about how to reclaim yourself, love yourself, trust yourself and abandon others’ expectations so you can stop abandoning yourself.
It’s the story of how I learned, through my relationship with Tish, that a responsible mother is not one who slowly dies for her children, but one who shows her children how to bravely live. It’s about how I stopped being a martyr and started being a model.
It’s the story of how I learned–through my divorce and blending my family–that a “broken family” is one in which any member has to break herself to fit in. And a whole family is one in which each member has the freedom to bring her entire self to the family table: to remain whole and still belong.
It’s the story of how I learned to set boundaries, make peace with my body, channel my anxiety, and honor my anger. It’s about how I finally discovered the big deal about sex.
It’s about how–when we stop pleasing and start living–we become women who can finally look at ourselves dead in the eyes and say: There She Is.
Today I am asking you to pre-order UNTAMED. Even if you usually wait until a book hits the library, or buy it the week it’s out, please consider ordering today.
It matters to me and to other authors that you vote for our art by buying it as soon as you can. It signals that there are people who believe in our work, which allows us to keep making it. The UNTAMED team is a handful of fierce, dedicated women. We have been working for two years in preparation for today. Your pre-order today means more than I can tell you.
Here’s another reason to order today. We are doing a special signed print run of UNTAMED that includes a beautiful page with the cover art and the vital question: What Would You Do If You Trusted Yourself?
I am going to sign every copy of this limited printing. Think of your people who are going through the thick – in other words, all of your people – and consider gifting them, and yourself, a special signed copy of UNTAMED. Once this first printing is gone, there won’t be any more. We don’t know if the quantity will last two hours or two weeks, so please order for yourself and your people today. Signed copies are available through independent bookstores, Barnes & Noble and Books-A-Million HERE.
In the coming weeks, as I sign each book in the limited print run, I will be sending my love and a personal blessing to each of you. I don’t know if that woo-woo stuff works but it makes me so happy and thankful that each of these books will go from my couch to yours, my hands to yours, my heart to yours.
When I finished writing, I sent UNTAMED to Liz Gilbert. She read it and wrote to me: “This book will liberate women—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I believe you were born to write this book.” It’s true. I finally freed myself enough to be able to say what I’ve been desperate to say for my entire life.
My dream is that–since freedom, joy, and peace are contagious–they will leap off each page of UNTAMED and into your hearts until each of us is free to live as the people we were born to be before the world told us who to be.
I LOVE YOU. I LOVE US.
G
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I have to say thank you!! First of, I hope you feel alive in all sorts of beautiful and meaningful manners during these strange times of crisis.
I am reading Untamed and… oh my goodness, thank you.
Thank you first of all for writing all of this with your own life, your own memories as the source of all your wisdom, humour and beautiful talent.
Thank you, thank you.
I’ve been trying to be untamed for a while and I’m mostly good at it, if I say so myself.
But I met the Ache first when I was 21 and it hurt me so bad I was depressed and unlike myself for a time. I felt this deep sadness and I couldn’t leave my house without feeling anguish. Me, the lively, joyful and passionate one: feeling like my heart had been replace by a cave, dark, cold and sad. However, with a short course of meds, prayer and the love and care of my parents, the Ache left me alone slowly and I returned to my life, like nothing had happened, apart from a limp I felt in my soul, like Jacob after he wrestled with the Angel of God.
I thought that was it, I’d met the Ache and I defeated it and let me teach me something nonetheless. I’d passed the test.
But it came back when I was 30.
Except this time I didn’t feel depressed but I became terrified and anxious. Again my normal rational self seemed to shrink in front of the fears and anxieties that filled my head.
Then that too, with time, prayer and the love of my parents and my best friend, went more or less, and I returned to normal.
But the Ache hasn’t gone. I started to understand a year or so ago that it wasn’t going to go this time.
And it hasn’t had a reason to go. People die, people leave, God doesn’t always speak and I can’t be sure if everything.Now with the Ache I feel any death whether close or far to me as a reminder of pain. It hurts. I laugh a lot, I am generally alive and happy and untamed Id say (probably not enough since I feel the need to proclaim that a little too loud for it to be completely true...). But the Ache. I wanted to get rid of it even if I knew it wasn’t going to be possible.
Then I read your chapter on the Ache. It’s so beautiful Glennon. I cried with the pain that comes with the Ache and the relief that comes with not being alone.
And I realised maybe it’s not my enemy. Maybe it’s a wise friend that tells me to pay attention to what should be cherished.
I’m going to try and not be afraid of it.
I’m going to listen to it and lean in.
I’m going to be untamed and fragile.
Thank you for writing this.
Thanks for telling me how you felt and what you discovered so I could find unloneliness in this.
You helped me with your words and the love that flows through them.
Thank you for being you.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Love,
Clotilde







As a woman, mother, teacher, and long ago 10 year old girl, I had only make it to page 4 before the bookmarking began. It was then I realized this book was about to change my life.
Upon reading the first line of page 11, I stopped to message my 2 twenty-somethings. I vowed to them that one day this was how all parents would see their children. I vowed to myself that they would both have the joy of knowing this book before becoming parents themselves.
In the chapter, Ears, Glennon shares the story of taking her girls to have their ears pierced and the approach each child takes to the experience. It reveals the tremendous insight she has in to who they are as individuals. The acceptance she offers in allowing them to be exactly who they are is my wish for every family. What a different world this would be if we all had that one person who knew us so completely.
I was once again compelled to share. The 3 of us, my children and I, delighted in a similarly shared experience. Then, we took time to marvel at Glennon’s breakdown of the word bravery here.
It went on like this. Page after page, chapter upon chapter Glennon’s truths resonated with me again and again. In total, I ended up with nearly 100 bookmarks including 1 in the acknowledgements! The acknowledgements.
From cover to cover, UNTAMED inspires the reader to live their truth, to have the courage to do hard things (because we all can), and most importantly, to be true to themselves. UNTAMED is inspiring, powerful, and beautifully, thoughtfully written.
THANK YOU for sharing your story!





I'm so proud of my signed copy of UNTAMED. I felt the energy in the book when it arrived and knew it would be an instant hit. Your honesty and authenticity leaps off the page. When I finished, I didn't want to be you, I wanted to be a better me. You are amazingly generous to share everything you have in this book. We're all better for it. Brava!






Thank you for your truth. Your authenticity. Your reminder that everything we tend to live inside is a social construct. Ahhhh, so many misguided memos we get about who we are supposed to be.
One of the best things I learned in recovery was it’s none of my business what others think about me. As long as I am asking myself the three questions I was taught-am I behaving as a person of grace and dignity, what’s my motivation and where is my Higher Power in it-I am good (mostly) with just letting others think what they need to think about me. To thine own self be true!!
Btw, I especially love the words “liquid gold” you use to describe that feeling of getting in touch with self/HP. I response was “YES. THAT IS IT. THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO PUT INTO WORDS!”
Thank you again. Magnificent.

I resonated so deeply with your view on spiritually and religions. I often shared a lot of quotes with my partner and she too found so much meaning in your words.
Thank you for this work of art.